I find it is very easy to be critical and find fault when it comes to things I say to my children, but it is harder to have edifying speech, or speech that builds up and encourages, my children.
Four our Sunday School class, we are doing a Bible study book that discusses 6 different key truths for women. The first chapter discusses how to lower your temperature, or anger. The most convicting part of the study for me was when we got to Ephesians 4:29. It says:
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
The first question for this verse said, “What are we not to let our talk degenerate into?” In different versions, we see the phrases, “corrupt communication”, “corrupting talk”, “corrupt speech”, ” unwholesome word”, and “unwholesome talk”.
The second question for this verse said, “What should our talk do for others?” And the answer we see in the verse says that our speech should be “good for the use of edifying” or that our speech should build up those who hear us.
My thoughts came to my children. Am I using my speech to build up my children? They are my first mission field. I know from personal experience just tonight that it is sometimes hard to use speech that builds up. As I had to exercise tough love this week, it did not feel like I was being edifying at all. However, that makes the moments when we have opportunity to build up even more important.
Parenting includes the times when we have to say things children do not want to hear. Those times are hard, but necessary for children to grow up to be mature adults. It may be tempting to avoid these times and to gloss them over. Those who are non-confrontational may not want to face the conversations when we must correct and discipline.
Yet, even though we must practice tough love, we must also take every moment we have to encourage, to acknowledge when they have exhibited the fruit of the Spirit toward others and a good heart.
That is a new goal of mine: to have speech that will edify my children and that my speech will minister grace (or that it will benefit) those who have to listen to me daily.
Those of us who are in the daily process of being mothers to children who are at home need encouragement as well. We know that God has called us to be mothers as we have children. Let’s encourage each other to do this great task God has called us to do. We know we can do all things through Him that will strengthen us!
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