Maybe you heard growing up:
“If it’s not true, kind, or necessary, then don’t talk about it.”
That is what I heard. I went to look for the exact quote. I found,
Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence? from the guru Sai Baba
“If you propose to speak, always ask yourself, is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?” ~ Buddha
Another thing I have heard said is:
Don’t talk about it unless it has to do with you.
Don’t talk about it if you are not part of the solution.
Well, since today is Thoughtful Thursdays, I am going to chime in like so many other bloggers and tell you my thoughts about all these posts that have to do with Josh Duggar.
That’s right . . . another post.
Last week, I saw post after post after post fill my newsfeed. At first, I was horrified and went to go read them. I read the main story; then I read from bloggers I knew–maybe they knew something else.
But I quickly found out that most bloggers were just reading the main stories. (Of course there were different angles of the main stories, some for and some against.) How do I know this? Well, they had to show they knew what they were talking about, so they told me I could see for myself, and they would have links to the main stories.
And then there were the posts that were for the victims and the posts about protecting people/children from abuse.
All these posts made me think, “Should I write a post about Josh Duggar? or the innocents? or how to protect children? or about abuse?”
Well, I won’t go as far as to say that it is wrong to do so. We definitely need to protect our children. We definitely need to condemn sin. We definitely need to extend forgiveness. All that is good.
BUT . . .
Am I part of the solution?
Since I do not know the family, probably not. Since it has already been turned over to the authorities, probably not. Since it has already been written about by people who have the facts and by others who are much more widely read than me, probably not.
Does it have anything to do with me?
No it does not. And it is about others. So when I just tell the story and my thoughts on what should be done, I am really just gossiping. Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others.
I am not an advocate about sweeping anything under the rug. But when it is out on mass media, I don’t think anything is getting swept under the rug; and I don’t see the benefit of me talking about it.
You might say, “Well then, why are you talking about it?”
As I read the few articles about this situation this past week, I got bothered. Of course, I was bothered or upset by the story. But I was also bothered by reading the story so many times. I did not need to read all the “facts” several times. It wasn’t good for me. I could do nothing about those facts. I could help none of the victims. After reading a few articles, I then said, “I am not going to read anything more about the story!”
Why would I come to this conclusion? Up above, we had some sayings that could be based on Biblical principles. But the Bible itself says:
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; ifthere be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
And I realized that I could not say that my thoughts were pure or lovely when I read this story. They were not of good report, and there was no praise in the story.
I was thinking on the wrong things as I read the stories, and it was bad for me . . . spiritually. I did not want to fill my mind with the sin of someone else. I could do nothing for Josh or for the victims. I was getting my information from second hand and third hand sources. Who knows if it is even all accurate; and if it was accurate, it had already been said. Since it is not about me, I should not be talking about it if I am not part of the solution or I am gossiping.
Then . . .
Should I do nothing when I know of a story such as this?
Absolutely not! There is something every Christian should do!!!
- Ephesians 6:18 – Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
- Colossians 1:9 – For this cause we also, since the day we heard [it], do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding;
- 2 Thessalonians 3:1 – Finally, brethren, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may have [free] course, and be glorified, even as [it is] with you:
Our prayers are what can help everyone that is involved: Josh, the victims, the families, and the authorities. Let’s pray for them! They need His wisdom; they need His healing; they need His help. They do not need me writing about what should be done.
Readers and bloggers, if you see me gossiping here on Creative K Kids, call me out! Let’s help each other as Christians not be gossipers, but to be people who pray. To be people who go to the One who can be part of the solution.
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