Last week, I shared how I sometimes have been an angry mom.
It something that I am not proud of and that I do not like to admit. I shared how I was studying once again the names of God as I know that the key to victory over being angry is in becoming more like Christ and in knowing Him better.
This week, I started going through a new video online course called 7 Days to a Less Angry Mom. I only have gone through 2 days of it so far, but do you know what I have loved so much about it already?
Knowing that I’m not alone!
Many of us moms will get together and talk about what we made for dinner and how Susie is doing so well in school and what our vacation plans are. We usually don’t talk about how we blew up the previous night. We usually don’t want to admit that we had a fail in the anger department. We want to pretend that we are the perfect mom just like all those perfect moms sitting around telling us about their perfect lives. We subconsciously believe one or more of these lies:
But let me share a secret:
There is no perfect mom!
We have all failed at some time. And that is why we need a Savior. We also need to be honest with each other so that we can encourage each others as moms to keep pressing on. To get up after we fail and to continue to do our best. To pray with and for each other. We don’t need to excuse our sin (because that is what ungodly anger is), but we do need to help each other be the best moms we can be!
So I am super excited to do this course. Why? Because I need to break a cycle. I need to stay focused on what is truly important right now. The course helps you work through all your stress points and see your triggers. I know I am stressed with moving, having to get a house ready to sell, teaching full-time, and then having to work with my daughter on math. Already, I have done one thing to help my daughter and I out. I told her she needs to try to figure math out on her own. What? (you may say!) Well, she was taking her frustration with math out on me when I was trying to help her. So, I said, “No more!” She will watch the videos if she doesn’t understand and try to get it before I help her. She also has to do her math when she gets home so she is not doing it late at night when both of us are tired. Again, this sounds like simplistic advice, but sometimes the littlest steps make all the difference.
Yesterday morning, I wrote down some of these questions I was asking myself about anger. I am going to study this emotion of anger and go through this course so that I can have concrete, written out answers to these questions.
- **I am created for God’s glory, which means that I should give the right opinion or estimate of God. When it comes to anger, how should I respond so that I give the right opinion of God? How should my reactions bring glory to God in my children’s eyes?
- If I am responding wrongly, how should I change my responses to my children’s wrong attitudes and behaviors?
- If my children are sinning, how should I deal with their sin?
- How did Christ respond to sin?
I starred the first bullet point, because this is what I am burdened about. An angry mom will have angry kids. Is my daughter partly angry because I will demonstrate improper anger? Is she learning a bad habit because I display that bad habit in the home? As moms, we are the mood setters in our homes! What kind of mood am I setting if I am grouchy and stressed and then get angry? Soon, everyone is walking around angry and upset.
I have shared this verse several times, but I truly love it:
Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
It’s not a secret. We moms must dwell in God’s presence; and when we do, He gives us joy. But for some of us, we may need more than just realizing we need to be in God’s presence. We may need to figure out what triggers our anger. When you take the course, Day 2 walks you through all the different factors in your life that may be causing your stress and helps you determine if any of those stress points are short-circuiting you to an anger habit. We may need extra resources to help with one aspect of anger with children or anger with a spouse. In this course, there are a couple pages just of links to other sources that may be a help. We may need Day 3 which is all about how to install strategies of calm back into our life plus practical calming techniques we can incorporate daily. We can learn what our anger cues are so that we can step back and not fall into the anger trap.
And then we will all have to learn to accept God’s grace when we fail — because we are not perfect! Verse after verse are included — especially in Day 6 — that we can use to help restore a relationship if we have been angry. Day 7 has verses that can encourage us and motivate us to be the moms that God would have us to be as it relates to anger.
Now, I rarely sell products. I used to sell more, but I stopped because it took so much time to write up a post, and I don’t think most of those efforts were worth-while. But this class is a class I know I need because if I take it and apply it, I will be a better mom. Is this information new? NO –it is all based on Biblical principles that have been around forever. BUT, this course is put together in an organized way that will help me to Biblically focus on this weak area in my life.
Now let me tell you something I have been mulling over: If I knew there were enough ladies interested in this course, I would start a private Facebook group just for us.
- Because I know I need to be in God’s Word every day. Yet, some days I let this fall through the cracks because of the bad excuse “busyness.” If we had enough interest, I would have a place for sharing what you got out of your time with God that day.
- We would have a daily thread where we could share how we had victory over anger that day.
- We would have a thread where we could pray for one another.
- We could talk the different days of this course and what we learned from it.
Now, if there is no interest, that is okay! I am going to finish this course no matter what, get into God’s prescence, and depend on Him for victory over anger. But if you want to go through this course with me and get some daily accountability, then go HERE to order the course, and let me know that you ordered it by leaving me a comment or emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org and that you would like to join me in our Facebook group!
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